Survivors know the difficulty in trying to explain Covert Narcissism to others. Perhaps that explains why a mini-language has sprung up around Covert Abuse. There's no way to explain it without Flying Monkeys, Triangulation, Supply Funnels & Hoovering. Time to brush up!
Covert narcissist is a term to describe a person who has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) but does not display the grandiose sense of self-importance that psychologists associate with the condition. They may appear shy or modest. Synonyms: Shy Narcissist, Vulnerable Narcissist, Covert, Psyche Killer, Soul Murderer, Mental Rapist.
Red Flag: A term used by early-stage abuse victims to describe the dynamics of "strange" past events & observations - before learning their official names given by the mental health community. Today's Red Flag is tomorrow's understanding of, say, Reactive Abuse. Red Flags begin where knowledge and learning end. Early-stage Red Flags could include things feeling off. Your friends are avoiding you. Glares. Lots of White Lies. Lots of "Coincidences" etc.
A synonym for covert abuse; often used in legal proceedings. Some people with narcissistic personality disorder may use triangulation to increase their feelings of supremacy, secure their self-esteem, and devalue other people while keeping potential competitors off-balance.
Anchoring bias is a cognitive bias that causes us to rely too heavily on the first piece of information we are given about a topic. When we are setting plans or making estimates about something, we interpret newer information from the reference point of our anchor, instead of seeing it objectively. Mark Twain explains it best: "It is easier to fool someone than to convince them they've been fooled."
The bandwagon effect is the term used to describe the tendency for people to adopt certain behaviors, styles, or attitudes simply because others are doing so. It is a cognitive bias by which public opinion or behaviors can change due to particular actions and beliefs popular amongst their "groups." As more people come to believe in something, others "hop on the bandwagon" regardless of underlying evidence. i.e. It must be true because "everyone" believes it so.
Defensive Manipulation Tactic. Blame-shifting is an emotionally abusive behavior or tactic. An emotional abuser sets up a dynamic where the victim comes to believe that they are to blame and that they must work harder to fix the problems (such as improving the relationship.) This never works because the problem is not the victim; the abusive behavior is the problem. Nothing you do will change an emotionally abusive person’s behavior.
CNPD stands for Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It's one of the Cluster-B Personality Disorders found in the DSM-5 under "Narcissistic Personality Disorder" (or NPD). CNPD is often referred to as Covert NPD.
Covert Narcs target giving, caring, empathic and compassionate people. Typically the two partners develop complementary roles to fill each other's needs. The codependent person has found a partner they can pour their self into, and the narcissistic has found someone who puts their needs first
Covert Abuse embodies harm done to a target by manipulating others to carry out attacks. Synonyms; Narcissistic Abuse, Abuse via Proxy. Narcissistic victim syndrome is a term that collectively describes these specific and often severe effects of narcissistic abuse. While it’s not a recognized mental health condition, many experts acknowledge narcissistic abuse can have a serious, long lasting impact on emotional health.
People with overt narcissism are typically extroverted, bold, and attention-seeking. They may become aggressive or violent if a person or situation challenges their sense of status. The covert sub-type is less obvious. A person with covert narcissism may come across as shy, withdrawn, or self-deprecating.
You'll need to become an expert in these and other manipulation tactics. Deflection, Rationalization, Reaction Formation & Blame-Shifting.
Offensive Manipulation Tactic. Both terms are synonyms of Minimization. Short Definition of Devaluing: Words or behaviors that point out other people's inadequacies or which are meant to diminish their sense of importance and place them below you on some status hierarchy. (Psychology Today)
A discard can often be the last spin of the Hoovering Cycle. The person with narcissism may begin—subtly, insidiously, and covertly—to devalue the covert abuse target. Inevitably, the discard occurs when the narcissist orchestrates the exit from the relationship (usually) in an egregious emotionally painful way.
Emotional baiting is a tactic used to provoke an angry or emotional response from the target. It's designed to incite rage which then becomes "proof" that the victim is the one who's "abusive, crazy or unstable."
The Narcissist's facade is an A1 priority. Image & reputation supersede everything, even kids. Victims who pose a (credible) threat to expose a narcissist's facade, are in a state of heightened danger. Psychologists warn of the dangerous to, even, reveal you're researching CNPD to a covert narcissist.
Synonym; Proxy. Type of victim (usually) who acts on abusers behalf. It's a sad moniker for those who can be manipulated to harm others based on mere gossip and innuendo. Proxies can be dangerous, too. See what Charles Manson's proxies did which still has them in jail 50 years later.
Covert Narcissism is difficult to detect, even for trained professionals. However, Functional magnetic resonance imaging (fMRI) measures changes in the brain's blood flow. fMRI Scans can identify Covert NPD via the lack of blood flow to brain centers in charge of lying. A pending fMRI Scan can upset a self-aware Covert Narcissist.
The king of all manipulation tactics. It's virtually impossible to detect and virtually impossible to stop. Virtually.
Grey Rock is a coping mechanism intended to diffuse the covert narcissist by avoiding contact as much as possible, and when forced to interact, refrain from showing emotion and give monotone, simplistic replies. This provides a measure of protection from getting baited into "reacting" to the abuser.
Yes, it's named after the vacuum cleaner, for the back-and-forth (energy) sucking. Hoovering is a type of emotional abuse done by a narcissistic person when they think the victim is seeking to move away. Cycles of Love-Hate, or War-Peace continue until the victim stays away, or gets a "discard". (See #13).
A synonym for a covert narcissist; also, fragile, closet, shy, victimized & vulnerable narcissist.
One of the core, fundamental strategies by a covert narcissist is to slowly (or quickly) isolate you from your own support system. Rumors behind your back often with false allegations of physical abuse, etc by the Covert Narcissist usually gets the job done.
A term describing Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder, often used by ministers, pastors & victims who link CNPD to Jezebel Spirit in Book of Revelation.
Early-stage offensive manipulation tactic to bond with "the target" and gain trust. Once trust is gained, "love" is displayed in cycles (aka: intermittent reinforcement).
Don't confuse with other Narcissist classifications. Malignant Narcissism is like an "evil accelerator" for either, Covert, or Overt Narcissists. A Malignant AND Covert Narcissist makes for a murderous combo.
It's a measurable spectrum indicating narcissism levels in anyone. We all have narcissism to varying degrees. Moderate narcissism is a key to mental health. However, scores at the extreme ends of the scale is a cause for concern. fMRI scans can also be used to detect CNPD.
Covert NPD subjects operate in patternistic, repeating cycles.
In terms of Covert Narcissistic Abuse, projection typically manifests in the victim being (falsely) blamed for what the covert abuser is actually doing. In other words, a Covert Narcissistic Abuser will project their own attitudes and behaviors onto the target.
In narcissism circles, a proxy is someone the abuser uses to fight the abuser's battles and/or make the abuser feel special, in feeding their core insecurities. "The 'lead narcissist' uses their bully pulpit to foster a sense of victimization in the followers (the proxies) who are then emboldened to fight even harder for the cause of the 'lead narcissist' in the name of vindicating their victimization," according to Dr. Ramani Durvasula.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is a condition in which survivors of severe trauma can be triggered to relive the trauma, even years after the event.
It's like this: Covert abuser purposefully incites victim until there's a (natural) outburst. Then abuser claims the outburst is "proof" she's the one being abused. Meredith Miller (Inner Integrations) did a great presentation on it.
One sign you're with a Covert Narcissist is if it seem most your special days are "somehow" ruined. High frequency and/or chronic sabotage of important life events becomes obvious to most, even if in retrospect.
It's an offensive manipulation tactic.
Purposeful, false rumors spread by the covert narcissist in an effort to discredit and isolate the victim further away from support system.
Slang phrase to describe "type" of murder Covert Narcissists commit; i.e. murder of soul, psyche, ego, core self. Synonyms: Victimized Narcissist, Soul Murderer, Covert Narcissistic Abuser.
Sowing Discord is a Biblical term for spreading false gossip and rumors. God considers it an abomination (Proverbs 6:19). The seven other abominations listed seem to describe the Covert Narcissist's entire playbook. Yikes.
Attention-seeking behavior—positive or negative—is referred to as narcissistic supply. Narcissistic supply is a form of psychological addiction where the narcissist requires, and even demands, limitless special treatment, admiration, importance, or validation to feed their sense of entitlement Narcissists seek a constant supply of attention and admiration which is referred to as narcissistic supply. To gain this attention, narcissists will often use a “false self” that is likeable to attract people to them.
The Covert's Supply Funnel begins with targeting the right type of "supply" which usually means a co-dependent, empathetic & compassionate person.
Using a third party to attack a victim. It's a highly effective strategy to earn an advantage over noted rivals by manipulating them into conflicts between one another. Triangulation is a method used by selfish individuals to comfort and protect their ego.
A synonym for a covert narcissist; or introverted, shy, or vulnerable narcissist. Covert, Victimized are most-used terms.
VICTIM-BLAMING & SHAMING
Abusers can "weaponize courts" explains Legal Expert, Rebecca Zung. Family & criminal court. UNSANE documents the target going to trial based on false allegations. The UNSANE story contains the incredible response which turned the tables on the abuse permanently. The filmmaker's strategy can work for virtually all covert abuse victims.
This phrase can be found in the Bible, as a reference to people who appear outwardly sweet and seem harmless, yet attain joy for being divisive and purposefully destructive. Dr. George Simon's masterful 2010 book on manipulation and covert narcissism is aptly titled, Wolf in Sheep's Clothing.
This manipulation tactic can be used both, defensively and offensively, depending on the situation. It can be used defensively to avoid answering certain questions. It can be used offensively to incite a reaction from the victim, usually in a public setting. Synonym; Crazy Talk, Talking in Circles & Crazy-Making Communication.
If we are this cool on a website, imagine what we can do with a few emails between now and the release of the movie.
Copyright © 2020 UNSANE & GenpopMedia - All Rights Reserved.
Powered by GoD